- Cell Phones Cell Phones Cell Phones!! Guest are so busy snap chatting and snapping pictures on their cell phones they miss the whole ceremony! Not only that they get in the way of the very expensive photographer the bride and groom PAID to CAPTURE those moments so that you as guests can enjoy them! Use the cell phone at the reception BUT be wary of the photographers and do not get in their way! Be respectful of them since they are trying to capture the moments for the bride and groom enjoying their time with each other and with you!
- Telling the staff where the ceremony location needs to be. How we run our venue is that we communicate with your guests for you so that A: they don’t go searching for the bride or her family to ask questions, or B: you do not have to assign a family member to do that for you! We have garden ceremony locations and an indoor location for the ceremony. Your guests are welcome almost anywhere on the property (until we get close to ceremony time when we round them up) It is not up to the guests to tell the staff where the ceremony needs to be held. We communicate to and with the bride constantly about weather and ask what she wants to do. If she wants to get married at her alter, even if it is raining, that is where she is getting married! We have some of the sweetest pictures of a ceremony where it was sunny and sprinkling. Dress for the weather, we are prepared to handle all situations because we have more than likely had them happen before!
- Criticizing the bride’s choices. I have overheard so many conversations that just hurt my heart! When a guest is degrading a choice the bride picked our especially when it has meaning to her and her husband! I am the kind of person that I always explain the meaning behind a non-traditional decision that may have been made, but I feel like we shouldn’t have to do that. They have invited you to be a part of this monumental day with them! Their decisions are 99% of the time a look into who they are as a couple. Be thankful you are there and be there to celebrate not criticize! As bride’s we work so hard to think about pleasing each and every guest when in reality that is physically impossible! Please do not be a Party Pooper! We invited you to the party to celebrate!
- Smoking wherever you please. This one my just be my preference, but I hate it when guests light up wherever they are standing. I know we are a garden venue and yes you technically are outside, but you are also in an area that the bride or her family has paid to have decorated and manicured and meticulously picked out decorations and placement to make it beautiful! Ask for the smoking area so that you also do not disturb other guests. . . . and don’t throw your cigarette butts in the gardens. . .
All in all our brides have had some extremely respectful and polite guests! But there is always one ;) just please be wary of your actions and how they impact those around you. #lifelesson